My Top 8 Secrets Of Getting People To Like You
It’s really simple and not rocket science to get people to genuinely like you for who you are. In this post, I will share my top 8 secrets of what it takes to get people to like you. Here are the techniques I use when I meet someone for the first time and therefore after. In no particular order:
- I smile and give them my full undivided attention, I let them speak about themselves first, unless I am asked about my interests. You see, people like talking about themselves and if you just listen wholeheartedly, this will enable them to feel good about themselves and you were the person to listen without interruption.
- When speaking to someone, say their name and look them straight in the eyes and genuinely mean what you are saying with conviction. Don’t look around or get distracted. This will make it seem like you are fake and not meaning what you are saying or disinterested in their company.
- Also, when speaking and starting a conversation I have a tendency of smiling as I speak. This gives the other person self-worth because they feel your enjoying their company.
- Ask them questions about themselves-be inquisitive (curious) This will let them talk more about themselves and their interests. I tend to be an inquisitive person when meeting someone for the first time.
- Find something you like about them physically or mentally and then give a nice compliment and mean it. Be lavish in your praise.
- Try to add value to them in any way you can. It could be by giving them some advice or lending a helping hand with something OR even buying them lunch or dinner. Be generous.
- Be kind and respectful, let them lead the way. When they want to be in charge, let them be the leader.
- Leave them better then when you met them. They will remember how you made them feel. This is very important. We all want to be accepted and appreciated and when we can lift one another up and do it with love….that surpasses them all!
I hope you got value out of my top 8 secrets of getting people to like you. After a while, you will learn to do these naturally. It is when you act upon it with love and expect nothing in return, is when you will attract people to you. Pure love.
How To Overcome Fear and Get What You Want
How to overcome fear and get what you want. As I was thinking about this past year and how crazy it has all been, German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche popped up in my feed and reminded me of something “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” There had been so much fear in the beginning of 2020. I had just lost my job and was struggling to get unemployment. It was battle after battle and I almost gave up. It wasn’t until I truly decided that their has to be a better way….and a better way their was!
Punch fear in the face & form new habits
A dramatic shift took place and my outlook on life was fresh and brand new. There was nobody that could change my situation, except for me. I took control and became a warrior! My sorrow became strength and I started improving myself on all levels. I no longer leaned on my own understanding, but instead got on my knees and began asking my higher power-God, to please help me. With each passing day, I continued to do this and the days got bigger and brighter. The fear was gone.
I formed new habits and had a strong urge to learn and gain knowledge. The internet and books were my best friends. I focused on the things that brought me joy. Peace came into my home, and I felt like I could conquer anything that came my way. Even the kind of music I loved listening to changed. Suddenly, I found myself listening to classical and tropical cafe music. My family probably thought I was losing it, but in a good way. My parents definitely saw the change in me, and I saw the change in them myself, because they were no longer worrying for me.
The Internet and books were my best friends. Have positive vibes & challenge yourself -overcome fear
As I dove into learning on a daily basis, my confidence level went through the roof. hahaha. I really felt like I could do anything. The secret was to just have faith in myself and trust the process. You can do whatever you set your mind to and guess what, it worked. The more I read everyday I learned new skills such as SEO, (search engine optimization) HTML, metatags, strategies and tips to rank your site high. Their was a sense of accomplishment and my mindset became stronger. Our brains are a muscle and when we work them out, they become stronger. Everything was going well for me and it all fell into place, because of my faith. Overcome fear!
Be of service to others
With all this positive flow going on, I told myself “I want to inspire people to overcome their battles and demons too” because this is what helped me. How can I do this? It started with ideas then moved on to many late nights listening to tutorials and watching webinars and doing online challenges with some amazing people, which I call my mentors. A momentum started building up and kept on going and it hasn’t stopped. I got rid of all the people on my social media who were not building me up and kept the ones who added value to me.
You are stronger then you think
This is just the beginning of the journey and it’s getting better everyday. A big secret is to just let go of the past and accept the new. Start trusting what lies ahead of you and have faith that God is leading and taking you where you need to go. Don’t be afraid to punch fear in the face, because fear is not our friend. What we endure in the past can only lead us to be stronger for the future. The pain and suffering we experience is meant to strengthen us and prepare us for a higher level. So, Don’t you dare give up on me my friend. We need you more then you know.
