• Spiritual Journey

    How To Overcome Fear and Get What You Want

    How to overcome fear and get what you want. As I was thinking about this past year and how crazy it has all been, German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche popped up in my feed and reminded me of something “That which does not kill usmakes us stronger.” There had been so much fear in the beginning of 2020. I had just lost my job and was struggling to get unemployment. It was battle after battle and I almost gave up. It wasn’t until I truly decided that their has to be a better way….and a better way their was!

    Punch fear in the face & form new habits

    A dramatic shift took place and my outlook on life was fresh and brand new. There was nobody that could change my situation, except for me. I took control and became a warrior! My sorrow became strength and I started improving myself on all levels. I no longer leaned on my own understanding, but instead got on my knees and began asking my higher power-God, to please help me. With each passing day, I continued to do this and the days got bigger and brighter. The fear was gone.

    I formed new habits and had a strong urge to learn and gain knowledge. The internet and books were my best friends. I focused on the things that brought me joy. Peace came into my home, and I felt like I could conquer anything that came my way. Even the kind of music I loved listening to changed. Suddenly, I found myself listening to classical and tropical cafe music. My family probably thought I was losing it, but in a good way. My parents definitely saw the change in me, and I saw the change in them myself, because they were no longer worrying for me.

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    The Internet and books were my best friends.

    Have positive vibes & challenge yourself -overcome fear

    As I dove into learning on a daily basis, my confidence level went through the roof. hahaha. I really felt like I could do anything. The secret was to just have faith in myself and trust the process. You can do whatever you set your mind to and guess what, it worked. The more I read everyday I learned new skills such as SEO, (search engine optimization) HTML, metatags, strategies and tips to rank your site high. Their was a sense of accomplishment and my mindset became stronger. Our brains are a muscle and when we work them out, they become stronger. Everything was going well for me and it all fell into place, because of my faith. Overcome fear!

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    Be of service to others

    With all this positive flow going on, I told myself “I want to inspire people to overcome their battles and demons too” because this is what helped me. How can I do this? It started with ideas then moved on to many late nights listening to tutorials and watching webinars and doing online challenges with some amazing people, which I call my mentors. A momentum started building up and kept on going and it hasn’t stopped. I got rid of all the people on my social media who were not building me up and kept the ones who added value to me.

    You are stronger then you think

    This is just the beginning of the journey and it’s getting better everyday. A big secret is to just let go of the past and accept the new. Start trusting what lies ahead of you and have faith that God is leading and taking you where you need to go. Don’t be afraid to punch fear in the face, because fear is not our friend. What we endure in the past can only lead us to be stronger for the future. The pain and suffering we experience is meant to strengthen us and prepare us for a higher level. So, Don’t you dare give up on me my friend. We need you more then you know.

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  • Family,  Health

    Do Adults Get Separation Anxiety?

    Do adults get separation anxiety? The answer is yes! I am right now experiencing separation anxiety. I have my girls away for almost two weeks. The feeling is real and I have been dealing with it for two full days now. You get a feeling of being left alone and nervousness. (anxiety) I am so used to having my baby girls around me age 11 and 13 everyday. Now, I don’t know what to do with myself!

    Who am I going to cater to now, besides my husband? I have a whole two weeks to myself with no kids, which I am not used to that! I still may or may not experience it with my older daughter age 19. haha. Admittingly, I cry every time she leaves back to school or when she ventures out on her own. The girls are independent and this is something I might as well get used to.

    Overcoming Separation Anxiety

    These Twelve strategies have helped me to overcome my fear of being separated from my kids, and maybe they can help you too.

    1. I pinch and remind myself that it is only a temporary leave. My girls will be back feeling refreshed and having an experience.
    2. I want them to be happy and I know they are… so its okay.
    3. Their bedroom door gets shut so I do not have to stare at their messy rooms and wish they were here.
    4. keep myself busy, busy, busy!
    5. I stalk their social media so I can see what they are up to. I feel better already! haha!
    6. Staying positive and visioning happy days is also key!
    7. I try to give them their space and cut down on my texts and phone calls!
    8. Being outdoors also helps me to calm my nerves when I’m feeling fearful.
    9. I stay downstairs away from their spaces (theater room) so I don’t get reminded of them!
    10. Do not count the days!
    11. A warm bubble bath with soothing music also helps me to relax
    12. Last but least, for a peaceful nights sleep, I use my Urpower Essential Oil Diffuser, which helps me to sleep calmly with a sweet ambiance of lighting. The lavender oils I use with it enhances my mood for a better nights rest. What do you guys do when you experience separation anxiety? I would love to know. Lets chat!